Flexible but painful

Flexible but painful

            Have you heard someone said “Hey, watch your words!” or maybe in Indonesia, we often hear “Your tongue is sharper than a knife”? Have you heard a quote “Don’t judge a book by its cover”? That means we have to speak carefully and we don’t have to judge others by their looks also. Judging people by their looks has many negative effects such as hurting other people, making you feel worse about you, perpetuating stereotypes, putting negativity into the world, and encouraging you to judge yourself.

         

   Sometimes, we do not realize for hurting people by our words. Hurting people by our words might not always happen. If the person never finds out what you said, you are in the clear, aren’t you? Not necessarily. Things have a way of coming back and hurting people in unexpected ways. Before you say, you have to think about what you say. Would you say that to their face? If not, it’s probably best left unsaid. Monitoring our thoughts. Think about what we thinking about. I often go along thinking things about other people, judging them, and I don’t even realize it. I’m going to work on paying more attention to my thoughts and do my best to push them in a positive direction. Remember how it feels to be judged. And remember how it felt last time we judges someone else. It wasn’t good, was it?

            When we do something wrong, we usually feel guilty to ourselves. Actually not at all. It seems like when we judge others, we feel bad afterward. We don’t feel good about ourselves. We might get a tiny rush from the judgments, but, ultimately, we feel guilty. We think we are a bad person for casting such harsh judgment on others. We bring ourselves down when we bring others down. Some people would be afraid of greeting judged. But, the others are fine to greeting them.

        

    The more judgments out there in the world, the more stereotypes get formed and people are trying avoid the ideas of what they are supposed to be. Whether stereotypes are based on race, gender, spirituality, ethnicity, appearance, or any other attribute, they are bad news. They force people to feel as if there are standards they must meet instead of living a free, happy life. Do not be a part of perpetuating stereotypes with your own judgments. So, start from now to avoid stereotyping. Stereotypes are never, ever good. I have tried to avoid them and hard to do. They create a lot of negativity in the world.

            Someone has said to me “Thinking positively may bring you to positive life”. I can take that if we think positively, we would also get positive thing in our life. It is seems like our mind could change our behavior. No matter what we way we rationalize our judgments, they are not bringing anything good into the world. They bring others down. They bring us down. They make the world a more unhappy place. Can you imagine what the world would be like if we tried to understand other rather than judging them? It would be better to understand other because we know the reason why they do like that. We could tolerate them by knowing their reasons. Like I said, judgment are negative. There is almost always something positive you can find in someone or something.

           We see people wearing a nice dress and get a lot of friends, we see people getting famous because their beauty, and many others of example for making us envy. We could judge them easily because of these problems. If we are judging others, we are probably judging ourselves pretty harshly as well. As for me, I know this is a case. For example, I judge what other people wear and as a consequence, I’m extremely concerned with what I wear. I spend quite a lot of time even I spend a lot of money on my clothing and appearance. I bet I would this less if I did not judge others so harshly. Focus on our own life. Don’t worry about what other people are doing or wearing or etc.

            So, what do you waiting for? Do you want to hurt people? Do you want to make you feel worse about you? Do you want to perpetuate stereotypes? Do you want to put negativity into the world? Or do you want to encourage you to judge yourself? Your life, your choice.


Stay in touch with me✨
📷 Instagram : berthamaheswari
💭Ask.fm : berthamaheswari
👻Snapchat : berthamputri